Collateral Damage by Dr. John T. Chirban
Guiding and Protecting Your Child Through the Minefield of Divorce
About the Book: Based on research from more than 10,000 surveys from children and parents of divorce, Collateral Damage presents parents with an overview of the negative impact that divorce has on their children and offers ways to better serve their needs at this critical time.
Approximately fifty percent of marriages in the United State fail. Add to that the increasing number of couples who never marry, have children together, and later go their separate ways. In all of these scenarios, children suffer greatly—often in silence, as parents do not know how to effectively guide their kids. When the sorrow and emotional issues of children are not addressed, the cycle of divorce is likely to continue for them and in generations that follow.
- Building the family—not losing it
- Tuning into your kids
- Stabilizing childhood
- Maintaining parent/child roles
- Avoiding the parenting handoff
- Attuning to guiding, spiritual resources
The unfortunate failure of a marriage does not mean the end of the family. Providing a stable, supportive, healthy relationship with your child demonstrates what a loving relationship looks like, better preparing them for intimate relationships and marriage as an adult.
My Thoughts: This book is meant as a guide for divorcing parents. I am really lucky in the fact that my parents are still together and always have been. That however wasn’t the case for some of my friends who had a very difficult time with their parents divorce and the issues that followed it. This guide book is really eye opening and goes into the issues and how to deal with this. I love that this book says that it shouldn’t be a clean break.